Psychology

» aamm667 - Depression stage of Bipolar

Hi. I wrote about my long time bf that is bipolar a few weeks ago. I believe that he is still in the depressive stage of bipolar. He continued, for about a month, to tell me that his plan was to move out of state to be with his family. I asked him again on March 30th, what he wanted as far as he & I, because he ignored me & isolated himself for greater than 2 months & he has left so many times. I felt so lonely for 2 months (which from what I've read is normal with Bipolar). He told me on March 30th that he still plans to move out of state. I told him that I would like him to move out by the end of April if that is the way that he felt. He did not respond, just continued to ignore me. On April 4th, out of the blue, he started kissing me, when we were watching tv. I reminded him that because he wanted to move, he decided that he did not want to be with me, then he finally stopped. I went to the gym to work out, (he used to work out all of the time). He has not worked out for the past 6 months. He has gained >30 lbs, which is huge for him. He has always been so conscious of his weight. I asked at least 10 times for him to please go with me, if for no other reason than because I need help, (he really knows a lot about exercise & eating well), & he refused, saying that he wasn't motivated yet. I came back from the gym on April 4th, he had his clothes & things in the car already. He asked for his car key, gave me his house key & said that he was moving out. He took his son, who was sick & asleep on the couch, with him. I have not spoken to him in 5 days. That may not seem like long for some people, but it is a long time to me. I still love him so much. My 2 boys, that are 15 & 10 were hurt this time when he left again,(I feel so bad that I let it happen again). I worry about him. Here, in this state, his children & their mother is here, but no one else....no friends or family. I know now, that we should probably not be together (especially since kids are getting hurt), but I just worry & want him to be happy. I know that if he committed suicide, I could never ever forgive myself. I would feel responsible. I wish he would move out of state where he has family & friends. I think that would be best for him. I think that having a loved one who is Bipolar is so draining, at least in my instance, when he tried to push me away & shut me out. I am new to dealing with Bipolar, & he would not let me go with him to his doctors' appts, would not see a counselor, & kept his medicine in the car. I was the only one he had. I just feel depressed & worried myself. I only want happiness for him....whatever that may be. Any advice?

-- posted by aamm667