Psychology

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - depression seriuosly affecting relationship

Thanks for posting, M. And congratulations on getting an acceptance to get your teaching degree! Wow, that's quite the accomplishment, and it sounds like you really enjoy being with kids.

It also sounds like you've really have been through alot. I can understand why you're drained and tired of it all -- and yes you do deserve happiness.

Healthy relationships are about lifting one another up, supporting each other, and helping each other live their best life possible. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to rely on your boyfriend and be happy to be with him -- not tired or drained. Granted, all relationships go through valleys and require work to stay fresh and exciting. That said, there's a difference between a good relationship needing some maintenance and a bad relationship.

Your relationship sounds like it could use a good overhaul. How do you do that? Through couples counseling, or reading about healthy relationships. Or by taking a good hard look at your relationship. Is it what you'd want for your friends or daughter? Do you know it's right for you? Are you truly happy with your boyfriend?

The second part of overhauling your relationship is having the strength and courage to take care of business. I don't know what this means for you, I can't tell you that, but it could mean setting new boundaries with your boyfriend or taking a break from the relationship.

Trust your gut, M. Be smart, and know that this is your life. You have the power to make changes, and create the life you want.

Write again, let me know how you're doing.

Laurie