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» aamm667 - I think my man's in the depressive stage of BP

Hi. I am new to this chat. I have read several of the issues & responses on this website & some have helped. I am facing my most difficult one yet. I have been with my man for 4 years on & off. The "off" times were his idea. The last time he left he said was because he could not stop being mean to me & I didn't deserve that. We (me, him, my kids, & his kids) had just started renting this huge house that I had a really hard time affording myself. We were engaged to be married at that time. That was his 3rd time leaving. Two weeks after he left, my phone rang off the hook. He was trying to get me back & would call for silly things, like to see if I had any extra towels that he could have, or to let me know that he found my sons' socks. After 5 months of him persistantly trying to get me back, I broke down & talked to him. He then let me know that he was just diagnosed as BP. The more he told me, the more I wanted to know. I blamed BP for all of the things he had done. He said that he started taking Symbyax & could think clearly. We got back together. Shortly after that, he told me that he wanted to get married & have a baby with me. He knew that I wanted that. He arranged to have $5,000.00 taken out of his paycheck this year for his vasectomy reversal & we even went for a consultation with an Urologist, so I believed that it was really going to happen this time. Wrong! That was 5 months ago. Since then, he sleeps >14 hours/day, is very distant & quiet, & now says that he is going to move to another state to be with his family. He says that he needs to be there & I deserve better & could be so much happier without him. I have never been treated so badly, but so wonderful at the same time. I love him with everything that I have. I don't know what to do. Please help!!!!

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