Psychology

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - need help with a boyfriend - bipolar?

You're right, Lizzie, going out with an alcoholic is NOT safe. Whether he has bipolar disorder or is depressed or has other issues -- he absolutely has no right to hurt you or anyone else.

Saying that you provoked him and that it's not his fault is a classic abusive stance. Abusers rarely take responsibility. They often blame others for their actions. When your boyfriend - or anyone else - pushes you down the stairs, you need to call the police.

Lizzie, you need to trust your gut with this one. You moved on past this relationship because it wasn't good for you, and you know that it's not safe to date an alcoholic. You know what to do, and you need to find the strength to do it. Your boyfriend may have some sweet qualities, but his violence and disrespect outweigh the boy who cuddles with you.

Make sure you have friends who support you, and that you know what recourse you can take if your ex-boyfriend harms you again.

Write again, let me know how you're doing.

Laurie