Psychology

» lizzie51724 - need help with a boyfriend - bipolar?

Okay so im 18 years old and i had been going out with my boyfriend for 22 months. Everything was fine for the first approximatly 10 months until he told me that he had a drinking problem. He told me that whenever he got stressed he would drink, and sometimes he would show up to school after having a couple beers. Once we went on a picnic and when he told me he was going pee in the bushes he was actually sneeking away to chug down a couple beers. His mother is an alcoholic and she buys him alcohol whenever he runs out so he never has an issue finding it. When he told me this i was so confused and didnt know what to think. I told him that he cant live his life that way and i wasnt going to go out with an alocholic because its just not safe. During this time he also had an addiction to smoking. He was trying to quit, but whenever times turned rough he always turned to it. 14 months into our relationship he gave up smoking and to my knowledge i thought that he had given up drinking. We always found that everything was perfect when he was sober, but when he got drunk he turned into a nasty person that i was truely scared of. We always argued when he was drunk and he always found a way to turn things around and pin the blame on me. We both ended up going to university this year and not long after that i realized that he still had a drinking problem. Id wake up in the middle of the night to find him piss drunk staggering around and puking on the floor. One time he peed right on my purse and broke my phone. I didnt know how to deal with it because its like he was two different people. One minute he was fine and the love of my life but then the next he was yelling at me and physically and mentally hurting me. He has called me extremely hurtful names purposly, and has also done stuff like pushed me down the stairs, and thrown me against walls. Most of the time he tells me its my fault because i got him wound up for getting upset at him. 2 months ago he got too stressed and decided to move to australia for 3 months with his family. Things seemed to be going fine and he told me that he was becomming a better person, that he doesnt dirnk at all when hes there and that he loves me more than anyhting, and then all of the sudden he randomly broke up with me. He told me that i had to venture the world and see if i truely love him. I was really upset at this and ive moved on a little bit and now realize that he wasnt good to me but now hes begging to have me back. Hes telling me that breaking up with me was the worst decision of his life. I just dont know who he is anymore. I want the boy who cuddles with me and tells me he loves me, not the one who wakes up in the middle of the night craving to chug 2 bottles of wine and a couple shots of vodka. I dont know if this is bi-polar... but i thought i would share my story,
sincerely,
Lizzie xox

-- posted by lizzie51724