Psychology

» nina5588 - need help with a boyfriend - bipolar?

i have been in a serious relationship for a little over a year. It's been long distance more than half the time. It's been passionate and good however i have always known that he has some deep rooted issues. At times, it feels like he is trying to be someone he is not, and i think he is doing it to keep me. He drinks too much and when drunk he gets depressed and angry and tells me that he is no good for me and that i will leave him when i learn the truth. He broke up with me today out of the blue and not for the first time. Indeed, i realized today that he does this every 6-8 weeks. and it is never because he doesn't love me. that is the sad part because he always does. he does love. i used to think that he was just "unstable" but now i am starting to think that it may be something more serious. this breaking up thing seems too cyclical somehow. he actually did tell me once that i should "stay away from him because the gets these mood swings" and i never learned what they where. he is not disrespectful and doesn't have sex with other women or flirt (at least not to my knowledge). it always boils down to the same thing: that i am better off without him. When he does this, i never run after him and i never beg him to stay. he calls or emails shortly after saying that he made a mistake. he is always sincere when he does this. and the thing is, when he was married they spent most of the time apart. he did love her though and i never quite understood the dynamic of their relationship.

does this sound like bipolar or anything similar? he told me that his mom has it but i am the novice here. i really need your help!

-- posted by nina5588