Psychology

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Looking for absolution

A BPD support group might be great for you, Linz! I was just reading the other day that connecting with people who have experienced similar life events helps you recover in SO many ways. You don't feel alone, ashamed, or as upset and angry. You hear other real-live stories and can relate, empathize, and sympathize.

I really hope others respond to your posting. Even if you don't find BPD survivors here on Suite or another discussion board -- maybe you want to consider an in-person support group?

I have no personal experience with BPD, but my mom is schizophrenic. She was never cruel to us, just totally detached. Neglectful. As an adult, I now LOVE getting advice from others because my mom never told me how to do anything! I guess I see advice as a form of caring and love.

I also went for counseling for a year -- hardest and best thing I ever did. Counselors can objectively show you what's gripping you and how to let go. They often tell you you're not alone, many people struggle with similar things. They "normalize" your experiences, which makes you feel good, normal, and sane! Healthy.

Linz, I hope you can get off the rollar-coaster and find the absolution you're looking for. I'm not sure what you mean by that - do you mean freedom?

It's your mom's ride -- not yours. She only has the power to control you if you give it to her.