Psychology

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - is this article offensive?

Men, are you offended by the beginning of my article on Marital Conflict? Specifically, I state that: "Men ruminate less, take less responsibility, & don't focus on marriage as a major source of life satisfaction."
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It's supported by research (tho I suppose almost anything can be), but I wondered later if it could cause hackles to rise.

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» pink101 - is this article offensive?

In response to is this article offensive? posted by LauriePK:
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I didn't think it offensive.
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Are you familiar with the idea of cathection?
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The idea is that a chain of thoughts is set off and the subject is unable to intercept it. They get carried away by their libido in an uncontrollable fashion.
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Sometimes ruminating, the idea of chew your cud again and again, gets confused with resentment building.
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-- posted by pink101

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» redback - is this article offensive?

In response to is this article offensive? posted by LauriePK:

Nothing your pages offend me (yet ) but I did a double take when I thought I read: 'men urinate less' until I took my glasses off. ABC

"It's supported by research (tho I suppose almost anything can be), but I wondered later if it could cause hackles to rise."

Show me the research and better, peer review collating and analysing the myriad research papers on this topic...and probably 3 main sub-groups emerge. Not always equally one-third. (gazes fondly at a 5-cent piece)

And call me silly, I have this profound hope, many men, even outside the USA, care more than what's accepted from US-based research.

If men are "better off" in terms of (insert), then how relevant is that to women and what's needed? If it is all true, have women, since Eve, set unrealistic expectations...so what's needed? This needn't be a race to show who bears the biggest scars the longest, should it? Darn, it is...for public health funding.

Max Miller once sang:
"I like the girls who do
I like the girls who don't,
I like the girls who say they will and then they say they won't
But the girl I like the best of all...and I think you'll say I'm right
Is the girl who says she never does but she looks as tho' she might."

Call me old fashioned, but are you telling me girls are all the same? ABC

-- posted by redback

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» pink101 - is this article offensive?

In response to is this article offensive? posted by redback:
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When I was a boy of about 15 I picked up an interesting book in a store on my way home from school.
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The title was, Out of Line, and it was a book of cartoons about the problems between men and women. They were all line drawings; pen and ink. The artist did the entire cartoon without ever lifting his pen from the paper. The illustration was one long line. One picture, in particular, comes to mind. It shows a man on a horse in opposition to a woman on a horse. They both have a long spear and they facing each other off. The entire scene is on a bed.
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We are who we are because of all the choices we have made up and until this moment. What other force could possibly have had an effect on who it is that we have come to be? If we chose Jesus it is because he is presented to us as an option. Otherwise, we don't know about him.
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That's when we come face to face with the question, What is the value of making a choice for Jesus? Why? What are the issues involved? Forget all the falderow of doctrine, etc..
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Is this a place where one might expect to get a reasoned answer to an honest question?
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-- posted by pink101

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» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - we're sortta the same

In response to is this article offensive? posted by pink101:

Maybe you're old-fashioned, maybe not....but women, like men, have common characteristics. Take body image, for instance, or prioritizing personal relationships. Women seem to be "stronger" in those areas (and simultaneously and ironically weaker).
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Pink, I'm starting a new thread with your Jesus comments below. Maybe you'll get a reasoned answer, maybe not. But it'll at least be clear (in the sense of separated from the marital conflict discussion! although of course Jesus and conflict could be intertwined in any good or bad marriage....)

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