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» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - 64 ways to say it

Someone gave me a "thumbs down" on StumbleUpon on my article, 64 Ways to Say "I Love You" because it simply states how not to be a s**t to your lover. Too much common-sense, he said, not enough innovation. I was insulted at first -- receiving criticism isn't exactly my favorite activity - but then I thought about it a little.

The guy is 23 years old; I wonder how his youth affects his perspective? I mean, if you've been married for any amount of time you know that it really is the little things that count - it's not the grandiose gestures (trips to Paris and romantic candlelit dinners.). It's putting the toilet seat down and actually listening and saying what you really mean.

I also wonder if this guy is married, or in a relationship. I wonder what his partners think of him, and if he does show his affection. Does he really know how not to be a s**t to his lover -- and if so could he share his insights?

Finally, I found it interesting that he's British! I have these stereotypical views of them: stiff upper lip, not showing emotion, not expressing love. Of course I'm being prejudicial......but don't stereotypes exist for a reason?

Anyway, he gave me the Thumbs Down a couple weeks ago, and I've been mulling over it ever since. Not just because I'm a little insulted, but because I really think those little things are the ones that really count. They do in my relationship, anyway.

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» pink101 - 64 ways to say it

In response to 64 ways to say it posted by LauriePK:
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I printed it out and will put it where it can be read.
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I think it is excellent advice.
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» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - 64 ways to say it

In response to 64 ways to say it posted by pink101:

It's also helpful to remember that some people give and receive love in different ways. For instance, I don't much care if my friends or family remember my birthday, but I do like when they call occasionally to say hi! Other people may be deeply insulted or hurt if their birthday is forgotten....but they don't care about phone calls.
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It's like the Love Languages, that book that was so popular a few years ago.

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