Psychology

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Dying

In response to Dying posted by love1joe:

Maybe Chris can tell you what helped her -- and does reading what we wrote to her help you?

Has anything traumatic ever happened to you, or has anyone you love every died? Why do you think your fears are getting worse?

» DebbieNB - Dying

In response to Dying posted by Chris849:

I cant believe this, ive been searching the internet to find help with my obsessive thoughts of dying, and now i see there are others like me. I never thought about it before, them my mom died and i found her, it was horrifying and ever since then all i think about is seeing someone die and going through what i went through it all over again.If someone starts coughing i think they are going to drop dead, i put my hand on my husbands chest to see if he's breathing,i see a heavy person and i think there going to have a heart attack in front of me, my kids are sick i think the're going to die, it's all i do. Seeing someone dead is terrifying especially someone you care about and i know that its inevitable that someone in my life is going to die someday and im terrified.Does anyone have any advice on how to get over these fears and obsessive thoughts that someone is going to drop dead in front of me.I live in fear whenever someone around me makes any strange sound or movement, i think oh no there going to die.I get a knot in my stomache, the blood drains from my face,i shake and feel like fainting and all usually for nothing.counciling cost to much so where else can i find advice.

-- posted by DebbieNB

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Dying

In response to Dying posted by DebbieNB:

Debbie, I wish I could say something to help you! Counseling can be free through Social Services, depending on where you live. I really think you should try and find someone to talk to -- maybe you have a Distress Line or something like that? There are trained people to help you deal with stuff, and it doesn't always cost money.

It must have been horrible, finding your mother. How awful, I'm very sorry for you.

Have you ever written out the whole experience, and your feelings? Facing and expressing your fears and experiences can be really helpful in releasing them.

Another option is just letting yourself feel terror when your child is ill or your husband doesn't look like he's breathing. Feel what you feel without fighting it --- often it's our attempts to stop feelings that make them worse.

Write here again -- you can even write out the whole experience with your mom on this forum, to me.

Keep in touch,
Laurie

» JoeJoe923 - Dying

In response to Dying posted by Chris849:

Chris I hope you are feeling better. I am going through a terrible time now with fear of dying.

I'm going on vacation tomorrow and I almost don't wan't to go because i don't want to get on the plane.

I am obsessing over not existing anymore. I am not depressed I have a wonderful son and great girlfriend and I have a good job and lot of fun in my life normaly. But i can't shake this fear which seems to be growing, it's begining to affect me. If anyone has found a way to get rid of this fear please post it.

-- posted by JoeJoe923

» pink101 - Any Of You

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Do any of you think that the news media is complicit in building up your fears?
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Fear can be a terrible motivator.
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-- posted by pink101

» pink101 - A Link

http://www.innerself.com/Miscellaneous/a...

-- posted by pink101

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - A Link

In response to A Link posted by pink101:

This is a fabulous article.

JoeJoe, I wonder if you made it on the airplane? Are you relaxing on a beach somewhere in the Carribbean, drinking pina coladas?

» Chris849 - Dying

I guys, I just did not have the time to look at the site lately. I am 100% better now. I went to see my doctor and she prescribed me something for my anxiety, I am also following anxiety classes WoW does that ever help.I have a super support system(Dad is#1, mom and familly), I also started walking, started going to church regularly and stopped procrastinating about my college education. I am 34 years old and going back to college in January. I still am a little anxious but it's nothing like when I first wrote this message. I am shure it would help if you guys would try to go see someone to talk to sometimes it could be because you are afraid of solving an old problem from a long time ago. I know for me it was because had issues with myself, I am overweight and I know that I have to do something about it.I had cancer when I gave birth to my son almost 7 years ago, I have to go back to get an education because I was not happy about what I was doing for work, plus it was a stressfull job. We had moved about 5 times in 2 years and that was pretty hard. Plus I had a misscarriage last winter. So I think all of that lovely mixture did helped with all the anxiety and stress. Oh and this is the first time I ever talked about this one, when I was 13 or 14 a 50 year old man took advantage of me ( sexually). To this day I never let it bother me but I am shure that this is a problem that have and that eventually I will have to deal with with someone but for now I will deal with one problem at a time and I will continue thinking positive and looking foreward to the future. I know that if I was able to get past that horrible fear of dying all the time you guys also can. I am feel so much better now and I have alot more energy. Please don't think that it will never go avaw, it will. You just have to work a little a beleive in yourself. Their is help for free also through Mental health and no you do not have to be a nut to go see them they are awsome and it's free. Hope this helps you guys a bit. I'll keep in touch and hope you guys will to .
Good Luck!!
Christine

-- posted by Chris849

» pink101 - Dying & Hell

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I'm thinking there may be some who may be overwhelmed by what they think may lie beyond death.
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Dying and going to Hell is a horrible fear. What could be worse?
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-- posted by pink101

» Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Dying & Hell

In response to Dying & Hell posted by pink101:

I guess it depends how you define Hell. Is it eternal separation from God, as I've come to believe? That wouldn't be everyone's definition. What is an atheist's definition of Hell?