Psychology
- what Oprah says about failure
- the benefits of art therapy
- how hair reveals personality
- Top 10 Articles About Love
- I'm glad I'm not a ....
- Top 10 Articles About Depression
- wierdest job interview behavior
- male babies trigger depression
- Top 10 Articles About Introverts
- spanking linked to sexual problems
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Failure - and rejection, which often feels like failure - is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome. Here's what Oprah says about failure, & a few helpful articles.
Me, I'm not worried about failure as much as rejection. Failure, I can attribute to not trying hard enough, or going too fast, or being too impulsive.
But rejection cuts a little deeper.
Here's what Oprah has to say about failure. If you're like me and find that rejection stings more than failure, try substituting the word "rejection" instead of the word "failure" in the following inspirational quotation from Oprah.
“Most of us are certainly uncomfortable with, if not terrified of, failure. We think it defines us. It does not,” says Oprah Winfrey. “Like every other experience, failure is defined by our reaction to it. Failures can be God’s little whispers; other times, they are full earthquakes erupting in our lives because we didn’t listen to the whispers.”
Does that help? If not, here's some articles about goals, failure, & rejection:
Oprah also says, “Failure is just a way for our lives to show us that we’re moving in the wrong direction, that we should try something different. It holds no more power than we give it.”
That's true with most things in life: they hold no more power than you give it.
That's not only cool, it's empowering.
"Ever tried, ever failed? No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better." - Samuel Beckett
But rejection cuts a little deeper.
Here's what Oprah has to say about failure. If you're like me and find that rejection stings more than failure, try substituting the word "rejection" instead of the word "failure" in the following inspirational quotation from Oprah.
“Most of us are certainly uncomfortable with, if not terrified of, failure. We think it defines us. It does not,” says Oprah Winfrey. “Like every other experience, failure is defined by our reaction to it. Failures can be God’s little whispers; other times, they are full earthquakes erupting in our lives because we didn’t listen to the whispers.”
Does that help? If not, here's some articles about goals, failure, & rejection:
Oprah also says, “Failure is just a way for our lives to show us that we’re moving in the wrong direction, that we should try something different. It holds no more power than we give it.”
That's true with most things in life: they hold no more power than you give it.
That's not only cool, it's empowering.
"Ever tried, ever failed? No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better." - Samuel Beckett
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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
Art therapy, such as painting, arranging photographs, sculpting, or drawing can ease psychological distress and chronic pain.
If you're struggling with grief, chronic pain, or major life changes, consider art therapy. Admittedly, I've never tried it myself -- but I would! There's something really cool about creating a picture, photo, or clay sculpture out of raw materials...especially if you can dip into your soul and let your personality peek out.
"Words may not be enough to express the physical and psychological distress of people suffering from chronic pain. People often feel safer containing these 'unspeakable' feelings within artwork," says Heather Cameron, an art therapist in Vancouver, BC.
Making art strengthens your sense of self and contributes to feelings of normalcy. Plus it’s relaxing. Creativity increases serotonin levels and reduces stress; it also improves blood pressure and heart rate.
If you're dealing with a recent disease, art therapy can help create a new "post-illness identity." You can explore how angry, frustrated, and sad you are -- and explore the ways your life has changed. Making art is effective either individually or in groups; Cameron finds groups especially beneficial because they offer social support and peer understanding.
"Words may not be enough to express the physical and psychological distress of people suffering from chronic pain. People often feel safer containing these 'unspeakable' feelings within artwork," says Heather Cameron, an art therapist in Vancouver, BC.
Making art strengthens your sense of self and contributes to feelings of normalcy. Plus it’s relaxing. Creativity increases serotonin levels and reduces stress; it also improves blood pressure and heart rate.
If you're dealing with a recent disease, art therapy can help create a new "post-illness identity." You can explore how angry, frustrated, and sad you are -- and explore the ways your life has changed. Making art is effective either individually or in groups; Cameron finds groups especially beneficial because they offer social support and peer understanding.
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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
A man's hair says alot about his personality traits, if he fits into the profile. But what about this guy?
He lives in my community, he rides a Harley, he wears leather chaps and a leather jacket, and he wears huge mirror sunglasses mostly on top of his head.
What kind of hair do you think he has? Does he have a shaved head, or a mohawk?
Neither. He has long, golden tresses. He has GORGEOUS hair -- it's thick and curly, and hangs almost all the way to his backside. He has hair that a hair model would envy. He could be in commercials, tossing his head and telling us how much he loves Pantene.
What does his hair say about his personality? He's definitely not a conformist, and he likes to stand out. He likes the feel of long hair, and he must not mind it blowing in the wind. He keeps it clean and shiny and healthy looking. I wonder if he blow dries it?
Did I mention he carries a knife in his belt? A big bowie knife or something. That's so people don't laugh at his hair.
Anyway, to learn about what a man's hairstyle says about his personality, try How Men's Hair Reveals Personality. To learn about reading body language through women's hair, read What Your Hairstyle Says About You.
These are general theories from a great book called Reading People; they may not hold true for every individual, everywhere.
What kind of hair do you think he has? Does he have a shaved head, or a mohawk?
Neither. He has long, golden tresses. He has GORGEOUS hair -- it's thick and curly, and hangs almost all the way to his backside. He has hair that a hair model would envy. He could be in commercials, tossing his head and telling us how much he loves Pantene.
What does his hair say about his personality? He's definitely not a conformist, and he likes to stand out. He likes the feel of long hair, and he must not mind it blowing in the wind. He keeps it clean and shiny and healthy looking. I wonder if he blow dries it?
Did I mention he carries a knife in his belt? A big bowie knife or something. That's so people don't laugh at his hair.
Anyway, to learn about what a man's hairstyle says about his personality, try How Men's Hair Reveals Personality. To learn about reading body language through women's hair, read What Your Hairstyle Says About You.
These are general theories from a great book called Reading People; they may not hold true for every individual, everywhere.
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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
These psychology articles range from "how to say I love you" to sexual arousal rates in women and men -- and cover everything in between!
These are the most popular psychology articles about love and relationships. If you can't find what you're looking for, email me and I'll find what you need.
Top 10 Articles About Love
Top 10 Articles About Love
- Why We Fall in Love
- Three Stages of Love
- Introverts & Extroverts in Love
- 64 Ways to Say "I Love You"
- Marriage Advice for Long-Term Love
- Kids' Thoughts on Love
- Surviving an Extramarital Affair
- 7 Signs of Addictive Relationships
- Emotional Affairs
- 5 Easy Ways to Say "I Love You"
- The Psychology of Love
- Men and Women's Sexual Arousal Rates
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In his book called The Pursuit of Happiness, David Myers describes the use of sentence completion to increase life satisfaction. Here's how it works.
"Frustration arises from the gap between expectations and attainments. When your expectations are fulfilled by your attainments, and when your desires are reachable at your income, you feel satisfied rather than frustrated," says Dave Myers in The Pursuit of Happiness.
He describes an experiment about how your thinking affects your life satisfaction:
"State University of New York at Buffalo psychologists Jennifer Crocker and Lisa Gallo tested the wisdom of that old song, "Count your blessings, name them one by one." After five times completing the sentence "I'm glad I'm not a . . ." people felt relatively happy and satisfied with their lives," writes Myers.
"By contrast, those who counted their unfulfilled desires, by completing sentences beginning with "I wish I were a . . ." came away feeling worse."
Keep reminding yourself how lucky you are, and you're more likely to be happy. If you compare yourself to others and focus on what you wish you were or wish you had, you'll be less satisfied with your life.
He describes an experiment about how your thinking affects your life satisfaction:
"State University of New York at Buffalo psychologists Jennifer Crocker and Lisa Gallo tested the wisdom of that old song, "Count your blessings, name them one by one." After five times completing the sentence "I'm glad I'm not a . . ." people felt relatively happy and satisfied with their lives," writes Myers.
"By contrast, those who counted their unfulfilled desires, by completing sentences beginning with "I wish I were a . . ." came away feeling worse."
Keep reminding yourself how lucky you are, and you're more likely to be happy. If you compare yourself to others and focus on what you wish you were or wish you had, you'll be less satisfied with your life.
Top 10 Articles About Depression
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These articles about depression range from natural treatments to teen depression and suicide. It's a complete list of all articles about depression in psychology.
Our recent discussions here in the psychology topic have revolved around depression in relationships. This mood disorder is surprisingly common -- and experts say it's increasing all over the world. Depression can be hugely disruptive in marriages and families, but it doesn't have to break relationships up.
These articles about depression will help you understand and cope with depression better.
Top 10 Articles About Depression in Psychology
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These articles about depression will help you understand and cope with depression better.
Top 10 Articles About Depression in Psychology
- New Research on Depression
- Symptoms of Bipolar Disorder
- Detecting Psychological Disorders
- Causes of Depression of Women
- Surviving Christmas Depression
- Treatments for Teen Depression
- Seasonal Affective Disorder
- Beating the Winter Blues
- Natural Treatments for Depression
- Double Depression
- Side Effects of Antidepressants
- Dealing With Depression
- Psychological Disorders
- Physical Signs of Depression
- Causes of Depression
- When Someone You Love is Depressed
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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen
wierdest job interview behavior
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People do some pretty funny and wierd things during job interviews. Check these out -- they're hilarious (and unbelievable!).
When you're interviewing for a job, you know you shouldn't cut your toenails or bring your own bottle of wine. These job candidates obvious didn't read the job seekers manual -- or CareerBuilder.ca's list of "Wierdest Interview Behavior."
Here's the wierdest of the wierd:
For great information about getting a great job and shining during the interview, go to CareerBuilder.ca.
Here's the wierdest of the wierd:
- One candidate said he was fired from his last job for beating up the boss.
- Another wore her housecoat and bedroom slippers to the interview.
- He spit.
- He wore swim trunks.
- She brushed hair during interview.
- She asked for a ride home after the interview.
- He sniffed his armpits.
For great information about getting a great job and shining during the interview, go to CareerBuilder.ca.
male babies trigger depression
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A new study from France reveals that women who give birth to male babies are more likely to struggle with post-natal depression.
French researchers discovered severe post-natal depression is the strongest in women after they delivered male babies.
“When we launched our research, our main aim was to study the effect that gender has on post-natal depression,” said Professor Claude de Tychey. “But the overwhelming finding of the study was the fact that gender appears to play a significant role in reduced quality of life as well as an increased chance of severe post-natal depression.”
What’s the connection between male babies and depression? It’s not the cultural pressure of having a boy – past studies have revealed that depression is higher in communities that place greater value on sons, but this particular French community welcomes both genders. It’s not the experience of starting a family; these women had the same general scores regardless of whether this was their first or second child.
Professor de Tychey says that further research is needed to unravel the connection between males and depression.
“Post-natal depression is very common and poses a major public health problem, especially if it is not diagnosed and treated,” he says. “We believe that our findings have important public health consequences, as they point to the need for developing prevention and early psychotherapeutic programs for women giving birth to boys.”
Note that not all new moms with baby boys will become depressed. This is simply one study of one group of women. It's interesting, but it doesn't mean that post-natal depression is a given for mothers of boys.
Links to articles about depression:
Source: Blackwell Publishing. (2008, February 13). Male Births Are More Likely To Reduce Quality Of Life And Increase Severe Post-natal Depression. Eurekalert.
“When we launched our research, our main aim was to study the effect that gender has on post-natal depression,” said Professor Claude de Tychey. “But the overwhelming finding of the study was the fact that gender appears to play a significant role in reduced quality of life as well as an increased chance of severe post-natal depression.”
What’s the connection between male babies and depression? It’s not the cultural pressure of having a boy – past studies have revealed that depression is higher in communities that place greater value on sons, but this particular French community welcomes both genders. It’s not the experience of starting a family; these women had the same general scores regardless of whether this was their first or second child.
Professor de Tychey says that further research is needed to unravel the connection between males and depression.
“Post-natal depression is very common and poses a major public health problem, especially if it is not diagnosed and treated,” he says. “We believe that our findings have important public health consequences, as they point to the need for developing prevention and early psychotherapeutic programs for women giving birth to boys.”
Note that not all new moms with baby boys will become depressed. This is simply one study of one group of women. It's interesting, but it doesn't mean that post-natal depression is a given for mothers of boys.
Links to articles about depression:
Source: Blackwell Publishing. (2008, February 13). Male Births Are More Likely To Reduce Quality Of Life And Increase Severe Post-natal Depression. Eurekalert.
Top 10 Articles About Introverts
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Since articles about introverts are hugely popular, here's a list of everything related to introverted personality characterisitics in Psychology.
Generally, introverts are much more comfortable relating to others one-on-one instead of in large groups. This can be a disadvantage at work, school, or even home because extroverts seem like they're getting all the attention!
Though introverts don't necessarily want attention, they do want to successfully network in business and make friends at school.
If you're an introvert who feels awkward in groups, try these 3 Ways to Socialize Successfully.
Introverts are thoughtful, creative, and great listeners. They may not be as appreciated as extroverts are, but they balance the world in valuable ways.
Though introverts don't necessarily want attention, they do want to successfully network in business and make friends at school.
If you're an introvert who feels awkward in groups, try these 3 Ways to Socialize Successfully.
- Be yourself. Since many people confuse "snobbish" or "stuck up" with introverted personality traits, it's good to accept and be yourself. Make it known that you're not at your best in large groups, and that you'd rather get to know your peers in smaller grops. Invite one or 2 colleagues out for lunch or dinner, or have someone over for dinner.
- Work the room your way. If you're at a party or convention and feel totally lost, try approaching an extroverted person. She's the one who seems totally comfortable and happy - and who seems happy to talk to any person, plant, or animal. Or make an agreement with another introvert to be buddies for the night, and approach new colleagues together.
- Ask "Anything new happening with your kid?" The last time I asked this, I was rewarded with a hilarious story about the 9 month old baby. Ask about pets, families, other work endeavors, vacations, or hobbies.
Introverts are thoughtful, creative, and great listeners. They may not be as appreciated as extroverts are, but they balance the world in valuable ways.
spanking linked to sexual problems
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If you spank your kid now, he could struggle with sexual problems when he grows up.
Interesting new research from the Family Research Lab reveals that spanking kids is associated with a higher risk of sexual problems as a teen or adult.
If the adult participants in this study were spanked as children, they're more likely to verbally and physically coerce a dating partner to have sex. They're also more likely to engage in risky sex and masochistic behavior.
“These results, together with the results of more than 100 other studies, suggest that spanking is one of the roots of relationship violence and mental health problems,” says Murray Straus, co-director of the Family Research Lab. “Because there is 93 percent agreement between studies that investigated harmful side effects of spanking, and because over 90 percent of U.S. parents spank toddlers, the potential benefits for prevention of sexual and relationship violence is large.”
The Family Research Lab, at the University of New Hampshire, recommends that parents never spank their kids.
Here's more information on child abuse and healthy sex -- not that I'm connecting spanking with child abuse. Some people do... but I'm just offering more info here.
For more info on this study of spanking and adult sex problems, here's my source:
University of New Hampshire (2008, March 2). Spanking Kids Increases Risk Of Sexual Problems As Adults. ScienceDaily.
If the adult participants in this study were spanked as children, they're more likely to verbally and physically coerce a dating partner to have sex. They're also more likely to engage in risky sex and masochistic behavior.
“These results, together with the results of more than 100 other studies, suggest that spanking is one of the roots of relationship violence and mental health problems,” says Murray Straus, co-director of the Family Research Lab. “Because there is 93 percent agreement between studies that investigated harmful side effects of spanking, and because over 90 percent of U.S. parents spank toddlers, the potential benefits for prevention of sexual and relationship violence is large.”
The Family Research Lab, at the University of New Hampshire, recommends that parents never spank their kids.
Here's more information on child abuse and healthy sex -- not that I'm connecting spanking with child abuse. Some people do... but I'm just offering more info here.
For more info on this study of spanking and adult sex problems, here's my source:
University of New Hampshire (2008, March 2). Spanking Kids Increases Risk Of Sexual Problems As Adults. ScienceDaily.
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