Valentine’s Day for Introverts

5 Ways to Say “I Love You” for the Shy, Quiet Types

© Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

Feb 5, 2008
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Celebrating Valentine's Day for introverts is different, especially if extroverts are involved. Here are 5 ways to say "I love you" for shy people in love with extroverts

If you have introverted personality traits, you may be overwhelmed when you think about excessive displays of love on Valentine’s Day.

If you’re part of an “introverts and extroverts in love” dynamic, you may become anxious and even panicked at the thought of Valentine’s Day, and your sociable partner’s expectations.

These 5 ways to say “I love you” on Valentine’s Day will help you and your partner celebrate both your personalities and your relationship. To make things even better, here are 11 ideas for Romantic Valentine's Day Gifts, as well as some thoughtful ways to show your love.

When You’re an Introvert in Love with an Extrovert

When you’re an introvert in love with an extrovert, the most important thing to remember is to accept yourself for who you are. Typical introverted personality traits include being uncomfortable in big groups of people, shyness, and a preference for being alone or with just your partner for company. The sooner you accept yourself as an introvert – and the more you verbally communicate your introverted personality traits to your partner – the happier you’ll be in your relationship, whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not.

And, the sooner you accept your sweetheart's extroverted personality traits, the happier you'll both be in your relationship.

Valentine’s Day for Introverts: 5 Ways to Say “I Love You”

  1. Figure out what would make you feel loved. As an introvert on Valentine’s Day, you may love the idea of staying home with a bowl of popcorn and a romantic movie (and your sweetheart). Think about how you really want to celebrate Valentine’s Day, and express your desires to your partner.
  2. Discover what would make your partner feel loved. If your partner is an extrovert, he may not want to stay home. Perhaps he’d rather go to a Valentine’s Day party or have dinner at a popular restaurant. Really think about what your partner wants. Better yet, ask him how he’d best like to spend Valentine’s Day. Don’t just assume he wants to party.
  3. Accept your introverted personality traits. Many introverts feel guilty, awkward, or even ashamed about their introverted personality traits. Instead of feeling bad about yourself (which can negatively affect your relationship), accept who you are. Similarly, accept your partner’s extroverted personality traits (if you’re an “introvert and extrovert in love” couple). Here's a description of an introvert's personality traits.
  4. Seek balance. If your extroverted sweetheart has her heart set on a Valentine’s Day party or party cruise, find a way to compromise. Unless you’re both introverts on Valentine’s Day, you may have to find middle ground.
  5. Step out of your boundaries. If you’re an introvert on Valentine’s Day, consider pushing the envelope a bit. Maybe it’s time to explore your partner’s ways to say “I love you” as a way to learn more about both yourself and your lover. Do something you wouldn’t normally do, and be open minded about the experience.

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