Casanovas, womanizers, lady killers, lotharios and tom cats are different words for the same type of men. Here's how to spot and resist a womanizer.
The word “Casanova” evolved from an Italian womanizer who had over a hundred one night stands. Casanova was a lady killer from Venice; he would wine and dine women, charm them, make them feel beautiful and irresistible, take them to bed, and … move on to the next woman the next day.
Casanovas are also known as womanizers, lotharios, tom cats, lady killers, seducers, predators and players. Many womanizers have a “line” for picking up women; they have a whole strategy from start to finish. After you learn how to recognize a womanizer, you'll see through his facade.
The personality traits of womanizers make them easy to recognize.
Womanizers are master manipulators. Though the words “Casanova”, “tom cat”, “womanizer”, “lothario” and “seducer” may seem flirty and flattering, the behavior of lady killers is far from innocent. The sooner you learn to recognize a womanizer, the better off you'll be.
How to Recognize a Womanizer
Womanizers are charming. They’re attentive, interested, curious – and they make women feel special. Womanizers have one goal: to get a woman into bed as quickly as possible and then move on to the next one. They’re seducers who are addicted to the "power" they feel when seducing women. This is one way to recognize a womanizer: they're addicted to the chase and challenge of love.
Womanizers are often in touch with women’s feelings, and can adeptly manipulate those feelings to their advantage. For instance, a womanizer will express empathy for a woman’s professional or personal problems, and let the woman vent her feelings. Once she feels comfortable and relaxed with the lady killer, he’ll make his move.
Womanizers are good at what they do.
How to Recognize a Womanizer: The Inner Workings of a Don Juan
Some psychologists believe womanizers or lotharios struggle with low self-esteem, and their sexual conquests make them feel better about themselves. It’s a temporary high, though. Womanizers may have unstable or nonexistent relationships with father figures – especially in early childhood – which makes them insecure about who they are. Knowing this will help you recognize a womanizer.
“Casanovas tend to exhibit some traits associated with psychopathy,” says Robert Hare, author of "Without Conscience" in Psychology Today (“The Lady Killer Files”, November December 2007). Womanizers may have to manipulate and deceive women to get what they want, and they may ignore guilty feelings – or they may not feel any guilt at all. This, too, will help you recognize a womanizer.
Womanizers tend to sleep with inappropriate partners, flirt with their friends’ wives, and have secrets about their romantic lives. Many lady killers are addicted to sleeping around with different women, but don’t find their sexual conquests fulfilling in the long term.
Recognizing a Womanizer Means Resisting a Womanizer
When you think you've met a Casanova, Don Juan or womaizer and you don't want to be another notch in his bed post, don't let yourself be manipulated into bed. A womanizer will give you the cold shoulder just as quickly as he'll wine and dine you. You need to decide what you want, and stand firm.
Womanizers probably aren't good candidates for long-term relationships. If you're looking for a healthy relationship, you need to not only recognize a womanizer -- you need to look past him.
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I work with a womanizer except he has a wife and he is already a
granfather. Stupid me I fell for him and work with him. Now he has started
gossip about me and we have not even slept togahter.
Oct 31, 2008 7:59 AM
Guest
:
Sounds like my new husband for sure. What a fool I've been to believe he really cared. I knew my feelings to run in the other direction as
fast as I could where warranted. One year and I've had atleast 20 women thrown in my face in some form or fashion. All of course are his " friends" and women who needed his help in some way. In
his words I am just insecure and jealous and need to grow up. This
definition fits my husband to a tee. I am his third wife. I am the
youngest wife he's had. I am also the one who has not been Ok with his
deceptive and disrespectful behavior. Amazing how he tries to make
this my issue. It will only be my issue if I decide to stay and put up
with his mess. I encourage all who read this. If you see you in my
story then do what I do. Move on and up out of this dead situation
with the quickness!! You are Worth more than someone like this for
sure. I know that I am. One year of hell is where I have been. One
year of constant humiliation and harrassment from a person who did not
love himself or me from the very beginning. It's not my problem. It's
his. I plan to get the help I might need to break away from this
emotionally. What I will not do is blame myself for getting involved
with him. I will not hate myself for marrying him. I will not hate
myself for being faithful in this marriage while he was making a fool
of me and himself. I will simply say. Be ware next time. Lord help the
men who seek and prey over women like this to conquer them. You really
are sick individuals who need intense council and help. God bless the
woman who has children with such a man. She really does have to be
with his nasty behind for life. I am so very blessed. I have nothing
with him. I still have all of my things in my name. I still have my
job, home, and car and life outside of him. I guess I was not as much
a fool as I could have been. He claims he is a man of full integrity. He
claims he is just friendly and cares about people. He claims he is really
in love with me. He says he feels so hurt and torn over my confrontation. I
say he is stil a lieng piece of waist. All will come forth in time for
sure.
Nov 17, 2008 12:06 PM
Guest
:
this is a great article that alot of women should read its depicts what an
womanizer is and his characteristics!!!
Nov 19, 2008 9:51 PM
Guest
:
This is the most retarted article i've ever read. Ladies, if you think that
a guy being nice and charming and romantic means he is a womenizer, then
you are going to be lonely for the rest of your life. "Womanizers
are charming. They’re attentive, interested, curious – and they make women
feel special. " So in other words, find someone who makes you feel
like crap? This makes sense.... NOT!
Dec 6, 2008 9:51 AM
Guest
:
I agree with your description of a "womanizer" to a degree, the
problem is that it does nothing toward giving us a way to discriminate
between what a womanizer is doing, and what some guy who is genuinely
trying to start a lasting, loving, relationship with a woman. In other
words, based on your description, we can know a "womanizer", only
after the fact. A lot of guys start out just the way a womanizer does when
they are attracted to a woman they'd like to get to know and explore a
relationship with. Sometimes in that process, sex comes earler, rather
than later, but just because it does, I don't believe we should label the
guy a "womanizer" and check him off the list of possible
candidates to explore further with.
Dec 11, 2008 2:53 AM
Guest
:
wow some mixed comments here. great story keep up the positive attitude
your rite in what you are saying :) jst be curious about some so called
friends in any case, but you do seem wise. girls be careful when falling
for womanizers cos once they get what they want there gone leaving you
hurt. even thow i do like to make women feel special (not always sexual)i
never intend to leave ppl feeling torn. there is jst so many things you can
say and relate to what people have been threw in relationships REMEMBER TO
BE SAFE! some men will make up anything to get what they want. Not all men
are like this and women can can be jst as bad.
Dec 14, 2008 9:17 PM
Guest
:
This article really helps.I've been to a womanizer,he promise me everything
and make me believe that he loves me. I followed what he said knowing that
he will be a good provider. He wanted to have a child with me.After loosing
my career and having a big belly. He left telling me that things won't work
out. Now I am starting my new life back to zero. I just feel sad and hoping
that my child will not adopt he's attitude.
Dec 22, 2008 1:38 PM
Guest
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I am a momas boy. I have been married 3 times. My girlfreind thinks I might
be a womanizer, so here I am to find out what that means. Even tho I have
alot in comman with a womanizer im not one. My first wife of 12yrs was
cheating on me, my 10yr old daughter caught her. My second wife and I are
still freinds. My third wife was cheating on me from day one, we were only
married 1yr. I am a one woman man, but I do like to flirt. I am true and a
man of honor. I am 42 and hope to find a woman who can be with me until the
end. Yea I guess im a womanizer I just dont belive in sleeping around.
Thanks for the Info
Jan 7, 2009 11:46 AM
Guest
:
My boyfriend of 5 years was a womanizer when I met him and yet I believed
him when he said he wanted to change. Not every flirtation leads to sex,
but it doesn't need to... the womanizer likes the attention and the chase.
The difference between a healthy friendly man and a womanizer? The
womanizer always lies and keeps secrets. The healthy man's women know about
one another and there are no secrets.
Jan 13, 2009 4:26 PM
Guest
:
Hooked on the hunt?!? I wonder how many genuine relationships this article
prevented... Don't all guys appear as womanizer initially?
Jan 14, 2009 2:54 PM
Guest
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im leaving with one, we r together for 8 years and we have two bouncing
baby boys when ever a new woman is in a picture i want to up and go but its
not easy to take away our k ids from their father. I always stay for their
sake. I can raise them alone but i came from a broken family myself n i
know the pain of it. But i feel like getting a boy friend and have a secret
of my own, will i be wrong?
Jan 17, 2009 8:22 PM
Guest
:
Admittedly I am, in fact, a womanizer. I find articles like this most
disturbing, because I think that women raising their defenses against
womanizers, such as myself, are forcing themselves into a state of denial
of their most primitive needs. The reason why we can be what we are is
that we know exactly what the women we approach want. Given that we usually
leave them afterwards, we still provide more benefits than detriments. How
you ask? How many women out there long for a strong, confident man who can
please them in ways they fantasize about? Make them feel wanted,
beautiful, and reaffirm their self-confidence? We provide all these
services plus more. For this reason I think it's unfair to put all
womanizers into the same "boat" so to speak. Personally, I still
speak with all the women I've been with from time to time, and they have no
hard feelings because I took the time to explain myself after the thrill
faded. The insinuation of this article is that we always give the cold
shoulder when we finish, this isn't necessarily true for all of us. I
would appreciate it if those of you reading this article, especially the
women that feel strongly enough to post one simple fact. The women I've
been with have all been beautiful to me and I appreciate them all for the
time that they were with me; I couldn't stay with them, because I wasn't
able to maintain the level of detail and care that I had set as a standard
for myself, and I had a strong, uncontrollable urge to move on and
experience new things. I will admit that there are bad womanizers out
there. I don't feel I'm one of them. I still contest that we not all of us
should be avoided, because we only exist to serve the lot of you; and make
the time you have with us special. You should want to find us and be with
us. My advice to you is different from the that in this article. I say,
yes, you should be able to identify a womanizer, but rather than avoid us;
you should understand that our time together is fleeting. Enjoy it while
it lasts and be ready to move on emotionally when that time together
expires and you will appreciate us for what we can give, just like we
appreciate you enough to get such a deep understanding that we're able to
provide exactly what you want. Thanks for reading.
Jan 23, 2009 2:28 PM
Guest
:
How to Recognize a Womanizer: The Inner Workings of a Don Juan "Womanizers may have unstable or nonexistent relationships with
father figures – especially in early childhood – which makes them insecure
about who they are." This will put 99% of the male population here
since MOST males have been damage by their fathers in one way or another.
Fortunately NOT all males are womanizers as this article would like you to
believe. Those that seems to think that all males are womanizers are the
one that have been a victim and feel they need to be avenge so they becomes
males haters. Actually it's really easy to spot a womanizers, the smooth
talkers, the one that knows exactly what to say, the one that seems to know
all the right moves to make you feel comfortable and non threaten. They are
the ONE you are MOST ATTRACTED TO -- because they are so Smooth they are
Hot or coolest guys you have ever met. NOn-womanizer are the one that
suffer for communication disfunction, the nerds, the geeks, the clumsy oaf,
the goofy acting or looking, they are the most Uncoolest looking bunch! I
mean who want to date them Unless they GOT MILLIONS OF DOLLARS! Women
seem to fall for the wrong guys why? Because they are the victims of their
own desires (that is they want a guy that understand them, empathizes with
them, they want the guys that are smooth, they want a guys that knows
exactly what to say or do etc) Unfortunately guys aren't Naturally wired
like girls. It takes practices and lots of it for a guy to be a womanizers.
Look for guys that have total perfection, total confidences in himself to
help ease your worries away then you will find your Womanizer =)
Jan 28, 2009 11:39 AM
Guest
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I met this very attractive man, and a firefighter in very good shape, I was
very attracted to him and him to me. One day , he texted me on the phone
and said he was horny?!!! Now is it me, or is this a man who is falling
all over himself. I don't have easy painted on my forhead, so what the
hell. The psychology behind this has got to be interesing, is it the hunt,
this guy did not even wine me and dine me but just assumed because he was a
good looking firefighter I would meet him for sex. Comments Welcome
Feb 12, 2009 12:09 PM
Guest
:
The girl who met the firefighter....STAY AWAY! Sounds like 2 guys I have
known. I am married and have a kid...I have been having problems in my
marriage...I met this guy who by the way works at a firestation. He
started out as a friend and the attraction grew. It was not a sexual
attraction..he paid lots of attention to me and my kid at a time that my
husband was not... That made me feel very good. But the feelings grew and
like the article, he began to play on my emotions and played sympathy for
the problems I was having. We would talk and text on the phone and when we
saw each other, we'd flirt and say things. Then he would get in this
"conviction mode" and say that he didn't want to have anything
else to do with me that I was married and it was wrong. I'd let it go and
then about 3 days later it was right back to square one....saying sweet
nothings....Things that he knew I wanted to hear. This back and forth
phone/text romance went on for months. Then the big bomb dropped and we
started getting phone calls that he was seen with other "married
women"...Come to find out, he had 3 other women he was doing the same
thing with. Now that his back is in the corner, he is telling everyone
that it was all me and that he had nothing to do with it at all! What a
liar! Guys like this are jerks and they don't care that they play with
peoples lives and emotions. Girl, stay away from this firefighter....he is
baddddd news!
Feb 18, 2009 5:33 PM
Guest
:
How do you break a womanizer... How do you make him fall in love with
you!
Feb 19, 2009 5:35 AM
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen :
I'm not sure you can make ANYONE - much less a womanizer - fall in love
with you!
Feb 20, 2009 1:35 AM
Guest
:
My comment is in response to the womanizer from January 19, 2009. Perhaps
if you explained your intentions upfront instead of after the fact some of
your conquests could at least avoid your advances. But, of course that
wouldn't be in your best interest would it? Of course, you are good at
what you do because that's all you do. I've experienced what I thought was
a great love, the love of my life, and it is now coming to an end. Yes, I
did experience great pleasure and he made me feel like the most beautiful
woman on the planet. What does that do for me now? Now, that I can't
expect that from a normal honest man. I do not have hard feelings for my
womanizer but I do pity him. He's probably quite happy to move onto the
next unsuspecting woman but it's still really sad to me.
Feb 22, 2009 1:23 AM
puppyshy :
I disagree with how most sources define womanizer and here is why:
The two types of Womanizers are (1). Men who naturally (that is the key
word) have an appeal to woman because of their natural intelligence, style,
charm, charisma, and good looks. These men do not in anyway have to pursue
women, as many women are attracted to the Womanizer naturally. Many so
called womanizers do stay loyal in relationships and because of their
unique qualities, find monogamous relationships attractive and preferable.
The drawback to this type of "Womanizer" is that he is many times
categorized with the second and most common class of
"Womanizers". (2). This is a class of men who normally have very
low self-esteem , oversized egos, and little respect for women. The
difference in identifying this type of womanizer is by the reason he is
referred to as such. For instance, a woman may see a man who does not have
style, yet he pursues women like a pig. These types of womanizers though
are generally referred to by other names such as Perverts, Pigs, Male
Chauvinist
"I love my Mother, and growing up and all my
life she would notice how women would flock to me, and literally fall to my
feet, (from when I was a baby) this had nothing to do with my conscious
intent of attracting women of all ages. I am just a very charismatic
individual, who is multi-talented, naturally sensitive, somewhat faminine,
and of genius intellegence. The only reason I state these facts is for the
purpose of understanding that some men actually have a natural ability to
attract both sexes (and are typically referred to as Womanizers)." -A
Serial Womanizer of the Natural Kind
Mar 6, 2009 11:06 PM
Guest
:
No all guys do not do that. Some guys are really just womanizers and they
can't help themselves. They have no conscience whatsoever. They are
sociopaths I think. I met one last year and I fell in love with him because
he pretended to be sweet and sensitive and looking for commitment. He only
wanted to use me. I made a huge mistake but now I feel sorry for him and
the other women he has used. He really is a very damaged individual. He
will never find happiness. He is a faithless, callous, jaded loser. I feel
sorry for the women he will hurt in the future. There are websites that
warn women though. Go to www.womansavers.com and report your womanizer. Try
to keep someone else from feeling the pain you feel. They never
change...unless they have a huge religious experience.
Mar 12, 2009 1:33 PM
Guest
:
wow , I haven't dated a woman in 7 yrs since my divorce . I have ran the
oppsite direction when they started getting to close to me. I was married
24 years. I have wanted to just have a friendship no sex involved with a
woman but it seems that the way it seems to start heading and thats when I
run. My daughter said that I lead them on by being to nice and they get the
wrong signal. My daughter said I was a womanizer . Never was intimate with
anyone of them and made sure they were aware of where I stood. I hope I
didn't do that I don't want to hurt anyone. Still single.....Maybe it's the
commitment I don't want or the fear of starting over again. Who knows
....God I need help here .
Mar 13, 2009 3:16 PM
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen :
Help is available -- but you need to seek it out! I'm not sure what
counseling resources are available in your area or workplace, but I suggest
contacting someone to help you figure out what's going on. Even if you
choose not to be involved in an intimate relationship, it's good to make
sure you're emotionally healthy and not hurting the women you're in contact
with.
Apr 7, 2009 3:09 PM
Guest
:
This is to the lady who also met a guy at a firestation and found
attraction. I just have to question your character. Just because your
husband doesn't give you as much attention as he did before you have to
look for it elsewhere?? How insecure are you?
Apr 15, 2009 12:20 PM
Guest
:
The word "Casanova" did come from the famous adventurer not for
his promiscuity but for his reputation as the greatest lover in history.
He did not just have one night stands, and if you actually average out the
amount of women he slept with he had about four women a year, because he
genuinely fell in love with almost every girl he seduced in his life.
Apr 29, 2009 3:00 PM
Guest
:
Mmmm yes i too fall for a womanizer,we were in a relationship for nearly
two years he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, until i fell
pregnant wow how things changed,he left me cos i wouldnt have abortion.. My
baby is 5 months old now he takes her twice a week,but as time goes on i
see i was so blinded,i no he cheatin with everyone n anyone exs you name
it..I felt a fool,i no hes still jumpin in and out of beds,he did it with
me after i got myself back to myself after birth,stupid me fell again..Now
i dont speck to him i dont let him in my home,he takes my daughter twice
aweek and keeps a bit of a relationship with my son as he is not my sons
Dad.Talk is cheap remember that all women,once you hear
sweetheart,darlin,sugarplum believe me its bull hes used to speckin like
that they suck you in and blow you back out in bubbles,if you no what i
mean..You want to beat the womenizer play him do what he does think about
it, it does work but you need to keep the gard up or he'll get you and you
wont like how you feel afterwards..
May 2, 2009 7:28 AM
Guest
:
A sizeable number of womanizers are married. So, in addition to the ego
boost and power dynamic, they are leading a double life. Even being around
an individual of this ilk sounds exhausting...and not authentic.
May 18, 2009 10:28 AM
Guest
:
I've been dating this guy for the past 8 months, and he turned out to be
the worst experience of my life. In fact, I wish I never met him at all, I
didn't realize that men like that exist. In the beginning, he was so sweet
and nice to me, leading me to believe that he is looking for something
serious, but after a while I realized that he is probably seeing other
women. But I guess I was in denial, or hoped he would change. He said he
really cares about me, but all of my suspisions came true when I found a
woman's underwear at his place. She probably knew she was not the only one
either, so she left it on purpose. I know that it probably seems that
I am weak and naive for believing such a guy in the first place, but I
genuinly thought he had good intentions. He also is very good looking, and
somehow women just throw themselves at him. The problem is that I fell in
love with him, and now don't know how to move on. I feel that I will not be
able to trust any man anymore. Any advice would be appreciated.
May 21, 2009 3:24 PM
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen :
I'm sorry you fell in love with him -- it's a very hard thing to get over!
Heartbreak hurts.
It takes time to get over a betrayal like
this, so don't think that you'll never be able to trust again! You WILL
love again and trust again...and you'll be a little wiser and more mature.
Be careful not to paint all men with this brush of infidelity. Not all men
are womanizers -- and there are ways to spot them.
One of the
most important things to do is go SLOWLY in new relationships. Womanizers
tend to move fast, not giving women time to think. I know you were with
your boyfriend for 8 months....and I'm curious if your relationship was
speedy?
Everything will be all right...and you'll be happy
again!
Wishing you all the best, Laurie
May 29, 2009 7:45 PM
Guest
:
No, this isn't what 'all guys' do, and not only men act this way at that,
quite honestly for some time i was a 'player' so to speak and yes a great
deal of it can be attributed to insecurity. The clinical definition of
the term 'player' did not used to be someone who would flaunt their ability
to seduce a women then her attractive mother, but instead was someone who
had a hole of a heart, empty inside that must find as many people to love
them as possible in order to fill fulfilled. This was the type i was,
and at a certain point i had at the least 20 girlfriends at one time, and
yes there was a great deal of guilt; finding you dug yourself in to a hole
you can only climb out of by stepping on the many hearts you collected on
the way is one of the most abominable feelings I've ever endured, not that
i didn't deserve it. Through some miracle, eventually these
relationships mostly tapered out and mostly through mutual break ups over
various reasons, this did not diminish the guilt, but it was some comfort
to know that they did not feel as bad as they would have, had i been as
callus as some men can be about blowing women off. And frankly, its a
on going battle that does not dissipate with the decision to stop doing
these things, subconsciously these things will sometimes continue to happen
and it can be difficult to resist when noticed. Being desired is a
intoxicating feeling, as is the control that one can use it for, not that
no women can understand this; their are women out there who will pretend to
be interested in a man for the flattering feeling of how much he will spend
and how far he will go to try to make her want him. I am still unsure
as to how exactly this does come to pass for male 'players', yes i did have
a bad childhood with father-figures and was molested by my pre-k teacher,
which i had repressed fro some time until i was a young adult; when i first
broke down and cried about this to my mother, she got me in to therapy but
soon after decided that i was making it up for attention and sympathy, so
that she would not have to feel guilty for thinking that she was to
consumed by her own despair at marrying a abusive drunk to notice the
signs. For me though the feelings of affections for these girls was
real, which caused my guilt at how unfair was being to them and their
desire to be the only women in a mans life. I would not recommend that
you try to fix these men, its only something they can do only if they wish
to. Sincerely, Michael.
May 29, 2009 10:28 PM
Guest
:
In response to the post of Jan 17, 2009 8:22 PM, decent women do not simply
want to be sexually desirable nor only fulfilled sexually. They want
to be valued, respected, appreciated, loved, and cherished. Women do
not want you to listen to them to try to get them in to bed, they want you
to genuinely care about their feelings, desires, wishes and dreams and
value their opinions. You may think that you are 'providing' a
'valuable service', but soon enough you will be to old and worn out to
seduce anything. And you will be alone, with no one to love you; no
one to manipulate, nothing to make you feel like more of a man, because you
aren't one. A man marries the women he loves, and will put her own
wishes before his own, as long as their reasonable. You may get a kick
out of ruining a mans life by seducing his wife and leaving her with
nothing but the memory of the man that ruined her life, and walk with a
swagger thinking you made her see god, may it last as long as it can before
you're world becomes as dark as you're heart. You can say that you
value them and appreciate the time they've given you but i doubt that you
could remember a fraction of their names and if you can you're probably
wrong about which woman's name it is. And soon these memories will
fade in to shadow and there will be nothing left. It is sad to think
how many women fall prey to these kinds of situations because they think it
you're Mr. Right, or that it is the best they can get, or sadder still, all
that they deserve. Even though you may think you are bringing romance
in to their lives, once the truth of you're actions are seen the only one
to be foolish enough to think of these times as romantic to these women is
you. I hope that womanizers who read this, if it is approved, will
realize that no matter how skilled you may be, talents fade over time along
with looks and therefore charm; not to mention sexual functions. If
you truly want and need love, find a nice women, admit you're faults and
pray that her heart is big enough to forgive, forget, and trust in you; get
married and thank her for any children you may be blessed to receive as a
couple and learn to control you're urges to flirt in order to receive
affection from women you do not deserve it from. Sincerely, Michael.
Jun 19, 2009 6:05 PM
Guest
:
HELP!!!!!! I am reading this and my heart is beating out of my chest. I am
a christian women married to a womenizer and to ad insult to injury he is
using the bible to do it.. I found him emailing other women , texting other
women and quoting scriptures to these women . and will go to church and
praise and worship like he has done nothing wrong to the point I cannot
even praise God from being sick watching him ... this is truley demonic and
I am so exhuasted and confused I just don't know what to do .. Will God
step in and stop this ? what in hell is this?
Jun 20, 2009 6:26 AM
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen :
I'm sorry you're married to a womanizer who is using Christianity and
scripture. That's wrong on so many levels!
I don't know if God
will step in -- but I do know that God requires both action and trust. That
is, the walls of Jericho didn't fall down by themselves (Joshua had to
march around them for days), and the Red Sea didn't part by itself (Moses
had to step into the water).
If confronting your husband doesn't
help, I suggest talking to a pastor or elder. Then, you can talk to your
husband with a third party -- who can help him see that you're serious. If
that goes nowhere, then you'll need to decide if you can accept him the way
he is, or not.
I wish you the best, and hope God DOES give you
the help you need. He will...but perhaps not in the way you expect :-)
Laurie
Jun 22, 2009 3:02 AM
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I guess as a guy - I've dated and slept with several women at the same time
- choosing the one I liked best then sticking with her for a while, does
that make me a womaniser, I have also had long relationships and been 100%
faithfull - I definately felt no need to 'ditch' the lady - as you put it.
I'm not married yet, and feel no need right now - life is great, I have my
looks, my health and my wealth. I show women great times - they laugh and
seem so happy. I was best man at my mates wedding, a great honour and great
fun - it was a event, they had been going steady for 11 years and mostly I
would say were already married - in kind. during the church ceremony ~ I
witnessed many tears from the bride and her sisters ... my mate and I
looked at each other and I thought how different men and women are in our
outlook on some things.
Nov 23, 2007
