Not every mom is close to her children, which can make Mother's Day depressing. And, many children feel sadness and despair because they're estranged from their parents due to death, physical disease or mental illness.
Other reasons for depression on Mother's Day include having children who are soldiers fighting overseas, struggling with an illness in the hospital, or imprisoned (convicts have moms, too!). Many moms are coping with Mother's Days that are tinged with tragedy or sadness.
When Your Children Aren't Around on Mother's Day
A child's death or teen suicide can shatter a family or community, and cause moms to dread this day in May. Some mothers find comfort in their living children - but some can't move past their grief.
If you know someone who has lost a child, remember her this Mother's Day. Give her a call, sympathy card, or an invitation to spend some time with you. Reach out to her; you may be the only one who does!
When Your Mom Isn't Around on Mother's Day
If you've recently lost your mother to a sudden or long-term illness or accident, your Mother's Day may be especially painful this year. If you lost your mother years ago, your grief may have matured - but you may still struggle with sadness or despair.
If a friend or family member has recently lost a mother…consider calling with your sympathies. It may feel awkward or uncomfortable, but all you have to do is say, "I was thinking of you today, that it might be a hard day – how are you?" Or take them for a beer, pizza, and a game of pool.
4 Ways to Cope With Depression on Mother's Day
Whether you've lost your mom or your child, consider the following ways to cope. They may make the day easier to bear – and even enjoyable!
1. Let yourself grieve. Denying or fighting your sadness makes it worse, and isn't physically or emotionally healthy. Give yourself time to mourn. Go for a solitary walk or drive – invite your partner or loved one if that's comforting. Take some quiet time to reflect and honor your memories.
2. Express your emotions. Whether you like to write, paint, exercise, or garden – do something to get your emotions out of you. Yell, scream, take deep breaths, whisper, punch pillows. Connect with God or the Universe.
3. Reach out to those you love. If you've lost your child, smother your remaining kids with hugs, kisses, and sincere appreciation. If you've lost your mom, shower your attention and appreciation on your mother-in-law, aunt, or even an older friend. To ease depression on Mother's Day, show people you love them.
4. Focus on what brings you joy. Jump into what you love to do! Dig in the garden, go to a funny movie, or get out of town for the weekend. Savor life, because you know that's what your loved one would want you to do.
If you're struggling with severe or major depression on Mother's Day, contact your doctor, a counselor, or a distress line. Don't try to cope with sadness or despair on your own -- help is out there!
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