You're getting married! Discuss these premarital questions about money, sex, career & kids. Be willing to accept the answers because they may change your wedding plans.

These premarital questions will ensure a healthy relationship - because unfortunately great marriages don't just evolve on their own! Before the wedding day or even before you start planning the wedding, consider these premarital questions. These categories cover money, sex, the household, children, and career.

This article, Premarital Questions, complements Pre-Wedding Questions. Together will prepare you for a healthy relationship and great marriage. These premarital questions are crucial because getting married may be the single most important thing you ever do.

10 Premarital Questions:

Premarital Questions About Money

1. Am I a spender or saver – and what's my partner? Are we comfortable spending money on the same things (such as organic food), or do we argue about money on dates or vacations (such as who should pick up the tab)? Another premarital question about money: Will we have joint or separate accounts, and who will pay the bills?

2. Are we in debt? What are our plans for getting out of debt, and do we have retirement goals? Have we taken a money management course for couples? A money-making premarital question: Who's responsible for the investments?

Premarital Questions About Sex

3. Have we discussed our sexual health? Do either of you have a sexually transmitted disease, and are you taking measures to prevent it from spreading? Can you comfortably discuss your intimate body parts and functions? A body image premarital question: Does your weight or appearance affect your sexuality – and can you be honest about that?

4. What do you know about our sexual preferences? Have you discussed premarital questions about the preferred time of day, number of times per week (or day), place, lights on or off, length of sexual contact, foreplay, or how adventurous you want to be?

5. Who cleans the bathroom, does the laundry, vacuums, and maintains the lawn/garden? Who cooks the meals and does the dishes? A good premarital question that's not often discussed: Who buys the groceries and maintains the car? What will your division of labor look like, especially if you have kids?

Premarital Questions About the Household

6. What are our pet peeves? Does it bother you if the toilet paper is on "upside down" or are you usually completely out altogether? Do you leave the cap off your toothbrush, the toilet seat up, or the fridge door open? A practical premarital question: Can you handle another person – even one you love – in "your space"?

Premarital Questions About Children

7. Have we, individually and as a couple, decided whether we want children? If so, have we considered how kids will affect our careers, lifestyle, recreation, privacy, social interests, money, and plans for the future? Figure this out before the wedding day.

8. What about infertility, birth defects, miscarriages, unplanned pregnancies, or other options such as fostering or adopting? Premarital questions need to include honest discussions about children.

Premarital Questions About Careers

9. Are we both professionally established? Should we both work full-time? Have we discussed whether one of us wants additional training, education, or experience? A typical premarital question: Can we afford changes in income, and does it mesh with our life goals as a married couple?

10. How do we deal with job stress? Are we grumpy or emotionally unavailable because we bring our work home – or work from home? Is our health affected by job stress? A practical premarital question is: Do we carry pagers or cell phones; if we have shift work does that impact our personal lives?

When you're discussing these premarital questions, listen to your gut. If the alarm bells are ringing or you think this isn't a healthy relationship or won't be a great marriage, stop planning the wedding before it's too late!

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